before i go to sleep i just wanna send out a big thank you to anyone who’s reading this just for being alive and all that jazz
Hey friends! If you’ve been following me since February I am very sorry to annoy you with yet another post about my ex boyfriend Steve, shavingryansprivates, regarding his awful behavior towards others.
A few months ago I spoke openly about how he sexually assaulted me while we were together sometime in December or January. After publicly speaking about his mistreatment towards me, 3 girls messaged me sharing their experiences with him. Amid exposing male bloggers for their predatory behavior recently, 4 more have come forward to tell me about their experiences with him.
So I’m compiling this post so his other victims can share their stories and have their voices heard. Just so everyone knows, it’s a very long post.
Warning: there are mentions of #sexual assault, #suicidal threats, #emotional abuse, and #predatory behavior so please exercise caution if you continue to read.
More victims have come forward & I’ve added their stories in the ‘read more’ section of this post. Continue sharing to encourage more people to come forward about his awful behavior!
always here if you need me, don’t sweat it. sending good vibes your way. stay strong.
this is a really hard question for a multitude of reasons, i think the top two being that 1) i dont know your situation, and 2) everyone deals with trauma in their own way and their own time
that being said, here’s what i do know
the trauma of rape/assault/abuse never goes away completely. no one really gets over it, per say. it made my heart sink a little bit reading the phrase “get over it” in your message because that’s not how it happens; we as human beings can “get over” a bad day at work, but you can’t just “get over” the terror of being raped. you can’t just “get over” the feeling of betrayal you feel toward the human race for what that piece of garbage did to you. there will always be days where you feel dirty and broken and haunted by what that disgusting excuse for a human being to you. the situation doesn’t change — the difference you’ll see is that, in the future, there will come a time when your perspective changes. in your own time, you’ll come to realize that even on the bad days you can still look at yourself in the mirror and say out loud “i’m not broken. the person who did this to me is broken,” and you’ll believe it because it’s true. it just takes a long time to get there. hell, it’s been 2 years and 7 months since i was raped and i’m still trying to figure things out.
so i guess my answer is no.
You’ll never “get over it.” You’ll get through it.
You know i just realize that im an angel
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